WAS YOUR BIRTH DIFFICULT?
OR PERHAPS YOU HAVE EXPERIENCED A TRAUMATIC EVENT IN PREGNANCY OR DURING THE POSTNATAL PERIOD?
And even though it occurred in the past do you feel that it is still very present in your mind and is still affecting you?
It’s not unusual after any traumatic event for a person to feel out of sorts and in a state of shock.
Reoccurring, unwanted thoughts about the birth that run on a constant replay in the mind can be exhausting and produce anxiety. You may feel that you wish to move on but inexplicably you are unable to put it behind you.
etimes it is others who are encouraging you to move on or ‘get over it’ and unsurprisingly you maybe thinking ‘I can’t’, or ‘I wish I could’ or ‘you don’t understand how bad this feels or how hard it is’.
Do you feel left in a state of hyper vigilance (as if on high alert at all times) wary of others touching or handling your baby or reluctant to put your baby down? Nightmares, flashbacks and hyper sensitivity can also contribute to this feeling of still living through the trauma even though it’s an event in the past.
Are you keen to avoid all reminders of the birth and prefer to push away unwanted feelings or thoughts about it, only to find that they stubbornly return? By avoiding situations where birth might be discussed, you can feel isolated and lonely. Perhaps you believe that no one can understand or relate to your experience.
Life with a new baby can be challenging enough but made even tougher when having to recover from a traumatic experience and cope with these feelings too.
In many cases mums and dads manage to move on past these feelings naturally as they assimilate the shock and move on with their lives as a family.
Sometimes this doesn’t happen and the anxiety, recurrent thoughts and hyper vigilance and other symptoms remain. And if you feel that still, after three months of the event, you or your partner are still experiencing the symptoms of PTSD then you may benefit from seeking treatment.
If you would like to move on and if you feel the time is right to move on…